A New Climate
Challenges
Choosing Love
How Hard
Love
On Wings Of Dreams
Perception Of Truth
Thoughts On Relationships
Wisdom
 

A New Climate

We are so above this as a race but someone has to step forward with a new bigger vision not based on old knowledge.

I personally think a whole new "paradigm" is what's required, a much large vision of where we are going as a whole.

This would have to start with why we seek power and "things"

A change at the schooling level is what's need to begin. We have to start and encouraging our kids to be creative based on who they are and their intuition rather than training them to fit in like some robot!

Our whole teaching method is so wrong.

All our lives we search for belonging, inner peace and happiness.

Or what is called "inner freedom".

But this freedom is a state of mind, it is internal not external.

As Carl Rogers put it -

"It is the quality of courage which enables a person to step into uncertainty of the unknown as he chooses him/herself. It is the discovery of meaning from within oneself, meaning which comes from listening sensitively and openly to the complexities of what one is experiencing........

The individual who is thus deeply and courageously thinking his own thoughts, becoming his own uniqueness, responsibly choosing him/herself, may be fortunate in having hundreds of objective outer alternatives from which to choose, or he may be unfortunate in having none, but his freedom exists regardless"

Is this not the freedom we all seek which gives rise to our own contentedness, our own power, to be "who we are" deep down the creative force in our life?

I guess I think all people seek this (I could be wrong) so why are we not teaching this in our schools, why do we do the reverse and actually take this away from kids leaving them with little confidence of their "inner selves"?

I'm sorry ......., I sort of get a bit passionate in these matters. I can't help myself, too much in my head! Anyway, just a little more.........

It's taken most of my life to find some of this "inner freedom" (I'm very lucky) and if I can make the world stand up and see that there needs to be changes well I think I will just have to try.

I'm not sure how I will do that as yet, maybe a book?

Anyway, in conclusion I guess I am trying to say is that the one thing humanity seeks throughout their entire life, happiness, inner freedom, what ever you call it for you.

We are not only not teaching but we are discouraging with our current social/political systems and theories.

Challenges

With all challenges comes a new truth
A different thinking
A leap of faith in our heart
A reward to our soul

For this moment shall pass
And once again light will shine
But with a greater brilliance
A deeper clarity
A warmer touch

And in that moment
All life’s soulful abundance
Will once again be regained
And a little more.

 

 

Choosing Love

Do we fall in love? yes....

Do we choose to be in love or not be in love? yes....

Love is by and far a choice that we must and do make. Before we even meet people we have made choices about what their beliefs must be, how they should look, how they express emotions, are they outwardly strong.

And this list is never written to paper, but sits comfortably in our mind is always accessible at the drop of a hat when we meet someone new.

The list comes into play automatically and in many instances unconsciously in all social circumstances.

Therefore, we do give ourselves "permission" to "fall in love" based upon the "choices" of our list. Therefore to fall in love and be in love, choices have been made and added to this we can then say that love is definitely not "unconditional" as the saying goes.

When we fall "out of love", this then is also a choice.

Why then do so many people "choose" to fall out of love with their partner? Here I can only state my own experience in these matters.

For most of my life and nearly all of my relationships, I can openly say that I was never really in love. I chose relationships because I was 'seeking' love and in doing so did not choose wisely.

I chose relationships just for the sake of being in them, all along knowing that the other person did not have my core beliefs and values and that I did not look up to them like I should.

Why do such a thing? Maybe lack of self esteem, up bringing, little confidence and so on. 

I personally think that many people including myself do/did it for the simple reason that they did not receive enough love when they were young. They then go through life trying to fill up the void with anyone they can find. This however is futile for many, many reasons.

If you are doing this, their is not test, just listen to heart for one moment and all will be made clear.

The true shift in self comes once you decide you want and are worth more, for me this has been a journey all my life time.

So when is choosing to fall "out of love" not such a wise choice - When you are "actually in love" and reality bites.

When you start to see your partner as human, with all their good and bad, with all their differences, with all their faults.

This is when you must "choose to be in love".

For if you do not, you will eventually get to the same place in your next relationship "properly in love relationship". What will you do then, walk away again?

Relationships are funny things, many people do expect their partners to be perfect, exactly like them, rigid, never changing and so the expectations go.

But look at ourselves, do we get depressed? annoyed with ourselves? make mistakes? change? grow? love? live?

Of course we do, so why do we then expect that we will not go through all these things and emotions with our partner as if they should be perfect which we are definitely not. Especially after the honey moon is over and we start to see them exactly as we should, another human being trying to do the best they can within their life time.

So when you do finally meet that person that you know is "right in your heart and soul" and things get tough, remember that it is really a "choice" to stay in love with them or not.

Make the choice and "choose" to love.

 

 

How Hard

I feel her in my soul from a first picture

I think that she is the one even though many thousand miles away

Is this just fantasy or is my awareness more profound with age?

 

Maybe I’m wrong, just a fantasy giving to misconception of feeling?

Of course we have all had that feeling.

But why in this moment and since first picture does it feel so right….?

 

Many years I have known wrongness (in love)

But at this moment she is so right.

And it feels right in my soul

 

This feels so right in my soul

Just as my thoughts of (my) life

We shall see where it ends

Will we (both) have the courage to step up?

As why all men fail, can I ask the appropriate questions?

 

 

Love

Why can't my love for them break through?

Why is so hard to utter a single word?

Why can I not speak my soul's truth in any given moment?

 

Why is it that we come together and at the last moment I can only speak my thoughts?

For I know I love my father, my mum, my sisters, my brother, my friends.

But why is it so hard to speak?

Why is it so hard to tell them how much I love them?

 

For do I fear their loss?

Do I not love myself enough for fear of such a loss?

When my heart tells me that all my life they have been wanting?

I have been needing of such expression?

 

Why do we know such in our hearts for our closest, for our humanity?

But yet still we cannot express it?

Why do we "feel wrong" in doing so?

Where does this feeling, thought, and emotion stem from?

 

For I need to feel these things.

It makes me feel a part of life, it makes me feel loved, and it makes me feel whole.

I need to not feel ashamed of my love but proud.

But why have we as "society" made such a feeling so shameful?

 

I want to express my love and make the world see that it is a good thing.

Not something that must be hidden away in the dark.

But why is it so hard, why have we made it so hard?

On Wings Of Dreams

As I sit here to listening to "break away" my inner self speaks volumes......

I will be all that there is for me to be in this life time
I will speak my souls vision to the world without holding back
I will speak for those who wish to cry out but cannot find their voice
I will show people that we must step up to our greater selves
I will do all to make humanity see their real inner souls.

In doing so I will.....

Show courage in the face of adversity
Be humble with the abilities I'm blessed with
Make no person wrong for the uniqueness of them
Help all that I can with my touch
For all people deserve to fulfill their life path and soar.

With this I know I also can not do it alone....... 

She will make my heart see light in the sunshine
Bring meaning to my life with her touch
Give grace to my thoughts when they are distraught
Show me a greater meaning of self
For I know she is out there waiting for "us" and the amazing dream that can be our life

For the real "meaning of life" for all us humans is "people" and "being in "relationship with other"......

Once we know this, we will be free at last.

 

 

Perception Of Truth

To me, there are two truths in the world.

A human truth which we all have when we are born and which many religions try and claim for their own. This truth is one which is not taught, it is felt deep within the heart of not just humans but all living things. A truth that crosses all races and has no walls, only emotions that are always present. 

Then there is our "perceptive" truth. We can never be totally free of this for to do so we would need to become what sociologists call 'belief free". Our environment we are born into imprints these beliefs so we can survive in that given culture.

Are these "perceptive" beliefs, so called "truths" actually right or fact, only within that culture. Therefore do not judge but remember to always be intuitive as this will keep you safe as you journey through this amazing life.

What is intuition? Part of the first truth, our best truth, the human truth.

Thoughts On Relationships

It's funny how things change across time and different "moments" (long & short) in your life.

Most of my life, I loved being in a relationships even when I knew it wasn't quite right.

I would quite gladly spend time with my partner, doing "stuff" that wasn't quite me, allowing little time to myself.

Looking back, I realize how little of my true self I brought to these relationships and partners. How so insecure I was that I would not express my deepest needs, greatest fears or all the parts of me that I felt ashamed of and thought would not be excepted. Even to the extent that the fear was that great that I thought they might leave me if they knew.

Things have changed so dramatically since then! I guess I am a lot more accepting of myself these days and have more certainty that who I am is "okay".

I now "want" a partner rather than "needing" one is by far the biggest difference. I am now certain of the fact that in my next relationship I will bring all of who I am into "relationship" rather than only a part of me. Will this be really difficult at times? Damn near impossible and frightening but I now know it is the only way to have an amazing relationship if that's truly what you want.

Most people do have a "vision" of what their relationship should or will be whether it is discussed or not.

Unfortunately the vision is usually an external one rather than an internal one such as buying a house, having kids, etc. But what happens when these things are achieved?

The vision I would like to have in my relationship is an internal one. One in which the vision is to help my partner be all that they want to be, to find their place in life, give meaning to who they are and live a life of creating their dreams.

I would also try to see my partner as a growing individual, not see them as someone who will be the same for ever as when I met them. I thinking by doing this both people grow thus allowing the relationship to grow.

I think the hardest thing in life is allowing people to be different, in others words not making people right or wrong just because they have different thoughts from you or do things differently.

And by far this is also one of the hardest things to learn in relationship. I think you have to make a choice to not get into a "power struggle" with your partner because they have different thoughts.

If you can combine your differences (synergy) and make them work together both people can achieve amazing things in their life and the relationship will give you more joy than one person can ever imagine.

 

 

Wisdom

Wisdom lies not in the many emotions and or large knowledge banks we possess of a given experience.....

but lies in our ability to simplify this experience and let it affect our life and others in a meaningful way.